Blessing Your Kids
Updated: Sep 9, 2018
But encourage one another daily, as long as it is called “Today,” so that none of you may be hardened by sin’s deceitfulness. --Hebrews 3:13
Benediction = Good Speaking
I (Sarah) first learned about blessing kids when I started using the TRU curriculum at my church. (I can't recommend this curriculum enough by the way, it's the best!) Each week our curriculum gives unique ideas and scripture passages to use when blessing our Sunday School kids. I bless my students each week and it's so neat to see their faces light up when they receive a blessing. I went to a few seminars and watched Michelle Anthony speak about how to bless kids and why it's so important. I was convicted and blown away as I learned the purpose and value of blessing others.
Blessings come straight from scripture. To speak a blessing over your kids means to speak a “benediction” over them. Benediction comes from a Latin word which can be translated as “good speaking.” I am so passionate about speaking good words over my kids because this world they are growing up in immerses them in bad, negative speaking. Kids hear negative, critical, and offensive comments from the media constantly. They soak in negative words even from friends, teachers, coaches, families, and especially their own critical self-talk. However, we have this wonderful opportunity as parents to speak blessings over the next generation.
I love that encouraging and speaking truth over each other is part of God’s design! He made us for community. We need to encourage one another so that our hearts don’t become hard.
But encourage one another daily, as long as it is called “Today,” so that none of you may be hardened by sin’s deceitfulness. Hebrews 3:13
When we encourage our kids with truth straight from scripture, we play a part in softening their hearts and focusing their eyes on what Jesus says is true about them.
What is a Blessing?
• When we speak “good words” over someone, we are speaking something that is true from God’s word.
• Blessings are different from prayers because rather than talking to God, we are addressing the person we are speaking to.
•Blessings, in scripture, almost always start with “may you know” or “may you be blessed.”
• A blessing may be a prayer of commission, a portion of Scripture, words to encourage, or words to guide. You can read one of the blessings in Scripture over your kids, or you can choose any verse and make up your own. Another simple way to bless your kids is to simply say something encouraging or loving to them. “May you always know how much mommy loves you!”
• When I bless my own kids, I like to put my arms around them or my hand on their head. I always make sure to get down at their level and look them right in the eyes. So often we forget to stop and look into the eyes of the people we love. We are often busy or distracted and save direct eye contact for times of discipline or correction.
Here is an example of a blessing straight from Scripture (with my son's name added):
Charlie, May the Lord bless you and keep you. May the Lord make his face shine upon you and be gracious to you. May he turn his face toward you and give you peace.” (Numbers 6:24-26)
Here is an example of a blessing that is simply encouraging, but still true:
Brinley, may you remember that your mommy and daddy love you no matter what. May you know that your heavenly Father loves you with an even greater love and will never stop loving you.
Here are two examples of blessings where I just took a few verses from Scripture to bless my child with:
Lila, may you remember that God’s plans for you are best, that he has plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. May you trust in Him every day (From Jeremiah 29:11).
Charlie, may you trust that God has been faithful and just to forgive your sins. May you not hold onto the guilt or shame anymore, but may you remember that your sins are as far from you as the east is from the west (From 1 John 1:9 and Psalm 103:12).
"God Loves Your Tippy Toes"
Blessing your kids helps me (Stephanie) parent throughout my day. I love blessing my kids before I send them to school. I place my hand on their face and speak a blessing over their day. My mom used to send me off to school by saying "This is the day the Lord has made, let us rejoice and be glad in it." (Psalm 118:24) So I usually include that in my morning blessing.
I also find that blessings are a great way to connect with my kids if we are having an off day. Maybe I'm working too much and not giving my kids the attention they need. Maybe one (or more) of us got up on the wrong side of the bed. Maybe there is just a lot of fighting going on. Whatever the reason, if I stop, look my child in the eye, and ask, "Can I bless you?" the answer is almost always yes and it works to soften our hearts.
The encouraging thing is that kids pick up these habits quickly. When I bless my two-year-old daughter I say, "Harriette, may you always know God's love from the top of your head to the tips of your toes." She has recently started blessing me and other people. She approaches the person,asks to bless them, and grabs their face between her two tiny hands and says, "God loves your tippy toes."